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To the Christian who can’t affirm same-sex marriage
A short survey of my view of Christianity, the bible, and gay marriage
I get it. I understand the worldview which holds the bible to be an ultimate authority, believes the bible to be infallible, and uses the bible to make sense of the world. People who willingly submit themselves to this authority, however, tend to hold to the tradition that a biblical marriage (or a holy marriage) is only available between a man and a woman.
In American Christianity, marriage is often silently but firmly upheld as the goal of a single person’s life. If you aren’t married and having children then what are you actually doing for God’s kingdom?
A greater emphasis on marriage in the church seems to have sparked after the US began to allow same-sex unions. Evangelical leaders of America started to preach with fire and gusto against homosexuality as an evil, abominable practice.
An authorial disclosure: I am not a Christian (not for lack of wanting) because I am still wrestling with reconciling a sexuality I cannot change (I am gay) to a God who others preach will send me to hell for my desire to have a husband and raise a family.
In my life, the bible is not authoritative nor infallible, though it sometimes helps me make sense…
